Life has a way of instructing us… At some point in our lives, we may have looked at our parents and thought; how could they not have known better than to do one thing or the other for us or even for themselves. This could be by way of being more ambitious (simply put) or maybe taking certain decisions which would have put them and in effect their children in a better station of life.
We have all at one time or another wished our parents had given us more material possessions, a better lifestyle or even been more attentive to our emotional needs while growing up… Well, here we are… Most of us never got our wishes but thank God we made it through and can now provide those things for ourselves, and our families; or isn’t this the case?
As adults, though still growing but now facing the issues of life in their hard reality, we may now appreciate the seeming inadequate efforts our parents put into giving us a foundation. I acknowledge that some of you may have had many thorny experiences as children that probably left permanent psychological scars that have affected your lives in one way or another or that some of you had ‘perfect’ childhoods (this writing is not for the second category) but that is beyond the scope of this writing. It is simply the thought that, we could make even worse blunders than our parents before us that I wish to remind us about. This reality hopefully should hit us at an early stage when there is still the chance to take evasive action.
You may not (now looking from a man’s perspective) appreciate what it’s like to be temporarily unable to provide for your family until life deals a blow causing a situation where the income can no longer meet the demand, for whatever reason. May we never experience such setbacks but sometimes we are rudely reminded by situations and unexpected circumstances that it is now our lives, our families, our children and our jobs that are at stake.
We must plan, seek help from God and work with all diligence to make sure we are not found wanting. The obstacles deterring us are many as we can all see but we must persevere. The saying “As you make your bed, so you will lie on it” is as true now as it has always been.